Essay Prompt #13

Communication among people

            Many of us spend hours in front of our computers and communicate more by e-mail or instant messaging than in person because it helps shy people communicate more openly with others. Others say that computer communication prevents us from developing interpersonal skills and limits our ability to have significant relationships with others. What do would be more helpful to us? How can this issue affect us in our daily life? Well, we can communicate in different ways in life, but how you communicate with someone depends how it can affect you in ways through out time.

        Why do people communicate more by e-mail or instant messaging than in person?  People communicate more by e-mail or instant messaging than in person because of the shyness people carry inside them and can open freely with others. This helps people like me express things without getting judge in a way by someone in person or making the conversation into an argument. For example, many people have their instant messaging and talk to people they are barely meeting or already know. The thing is that while communicating over computer and you feel it would be better for someone to say something personal well it can be good in the way of letting what you have inside that might be hurting out or just speaking your mind, what we do not know is while doing this the message/conversation can be save and posted up to people that you may have ask not to find out about it. Sometimes people can be shy enough to say something in person to someone else in the way of thinking how would we reacting to what you have to say or just not your thing of talking things out because that is just how one is in general.  When meeting people through the computer communication, it can be a good thing to make new friends, or to meet strangers, why. Because meeting new people helps people conversed with each other to get to know one another and learn new things, but people do not know that while the communication gets interesting they might not know if someone is lying, pretending to be someone else, or just trying to mess around with you. This can happen if you do not know how the person may look like and get curious with too many questions or says. It can be risky at the same time it can be good to communicate if you had a problem with your phone or just want to rather conversed through e-mail or instant messaging.

         Why do other people believe that computer communication prevents us from developing interpersonal skills and limits our ability to have significant relationships? People as well as me, do not always like talking things out face to face in the fact of being shy and just rather not have the courage to have a conversion one on one in person for different reasons. Many have thought it would help you in the way of speaking and saying things when talking in person. It can also start to get the shyness away from you through the time when communicating. For example many can say it would be a good idea to be open minded in person, but others can say we should be careful of what to say that is where the trust can begin and is felt by someone if the communication goes well. In the world there is many forms of communicating in life, but someone’s life can not be fully told behind those keyboards and it can influence bad attitudes that is why it is better to communicate most of the time in person to have a better understanding and knowing who and what you are saying to each other.

           In my position, I use to do more of computer communicating than in person because of my shyness, but also I was scared to know how it would be if what I said in person would turn out to be or seem to others. Well I use to stay in the computer for hours chatting with friends, and doing homework at times. It really was not good for me to be doing this because I began to get my vision blurry and I had less communication in person with my friends, I did not feel telling really comfortable to say something out. The communication with my friends in person began to get better when I was getting to know my boyfriend because if there wasn’t really communication then what else would you call the contact between two people. My boyfriend and I have been working in our communication as in talking things out in person to feel and see the honesty between us two and know there is no hidden stuff among us. When two people have communication face to face then there is a significant relationship among them. Communication in relationships or friends is not the only things people do they also communicate to do team work and participate in events, etc. After going through computer communication, it came to my mind that it would be more helpful to have a conversation in person to feel that there is trust and is not a confusion of explaining things. Many have a confusion or hard time to explain something through e-mail or instant messaging because of too much writing. Others learn to speak stuff out in person just to save time up on the computer or because it can sound better what you have to say then written down. Everyone has their different opinion in this, but some can be similar to others.

        In conclusion, many people communicate differently depending on how they are (personality) and how they take in consideration communication through computer (e-mail and instant messaging) and communication in person. In my point of view, it is better to speak your mind out most of the time in person to learn to get the shyness out of you and to see the difference and trust someone can have on someone else in talking things out and getting to know one another more. You have to know how to say things properly depending on the person you might be trying to talk to. The way of communicating is an important thing in people’s life in the world.